He said, she said. Are you and your partner caught in endless discussions that leave neither of you feeling settled and heard? Or do your conversations turn into arguments where the goal becomes trying to place blame and escape unharmed. Human relationships, for the most part, are regulated and maintained through verbal communication - through talking. When this essential function of relatedness breaks down it can spell disaster for any couple.
At the Bay Area Center for Couples Therapy, with locations in San Francisco, Marin, Oakland/Berkeley, and San Mateo, we find that most couples struggle with communication. What we also find is that talking through problems wasn't always so hard for them. We believe that any topic at hand is usually just the tip of the iceberg. What often plagues couples is no the content of their arguments, but a problem with the core emotional bond between them. Using the highly effective and widely used Emotion Focused Couples Therapy model, we take couples through the necessary steps, guiding them along the way, until they learn how to ask for what they need and how to get those needs met.